Today has just been one of those days where I haven't wanted to do anything much. G has been working today now it's term time again, and today even had overtime to do. He's gone off to see his brother after work too so it's felt a long day again at home alone.
I've been reading some of the lovely american blogs I have found on adoption alot today. One in particular about a couple who adopted twin girls. G and I have been talking for a long time about children and how and if we will manage to have a family. With my PCOS I've always known babies would be hard to have naturally so for me adoption has always been on the cards. In the UK adoption of babies though is rare, although my understanding is that there are more black and mixed race children who are needing adoption than white children so we may get lucky.
This is the first time I have really put these dreams out there. Since our wedding people are constantly asking me when the babies will be coming. G has started getting it too now. There are many nights at the moment when I get very upset at the thought of it never happening either way. As I'm a bigger lady this could be perceived as a problem in adoption.
So yes today I've felt sad. Like this is out of my reach. I'm 34. I'm at the time where now we have to start making it happen one way or another. Some days G understands this and agrees that we need to move forward, other days he thinks we have years to worry.
Howdy--there's a lovely book on adopting from China in the UK--
ReplyDeleteFrom China wih Love by Emily Buchanan. Here's the link:http://www.amazon.co.uk/China-Love-Long-Road-Motherhood/dp/0470093439
I have heard that China can be stuffy about BMIs, but I don't think it's that stringent, and of course there are lots of different places to adopt. Here, at least, a couple open to a baby of any race usually adopts pretty quickly. I hop you work everything out!
That's so sweet of you. I actually feel abit tearful reading this. Things are different in the UK... babies are rare, it's usually older children. I will definitely look up that book. Thanks so much. I want to start getting prepared for all eventualities! Love your blog by the way!
ReplyDeleteKel just found your blog via Salsa in China, I too am in England. If you want any info on adoption in england just let me know. You are right it is quite different. Re overseas adoption China currently has a 5-7 year waiting list if you are in the UK, could actually become longer. There are other options though. Re dual heritage children, yes domestically that is possible and actually I do know of people who have been able to adopt beautiful children relatively quickly as a multi-race family. Glad to have found your blog!
ReplyDeleteI'm really touched to have read your comments. The more I read about adoption the more I want to do it. We're not quite at the stage of deciding yet but its on the cards.
ReplyDeleteI've been reading your blog too. I hope you're okay xxxxx